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Divorce and separation? Help for Dads.
Problems with your marriage? Not guilty? You'll be punished anyway ... No man is safe! Here is a guide to help fathers in a divorce or separation process.
- There are close to 150.000 divorces in England and Wales every year. Six couples in 1000 will divorce in any one year and 10% of married couples break up before their child is five. Indeed, half of all marriages will not last 10 years and widowhood apart, the chances of a divorce are almost 90%.
- The vast majority of divorce proceedings - over 90% - are initiated by the wife ... and it's not for the husbands adultery! The majority of divorcing woment start to plan their divorce 6 months in advance. The first the husband knows is when the papers are served, by this time 50% of wives are already cheating.
- Divorce is a very profitable business for women. Especially moms get large financial incentives to lie, to be bloody minded and generally commit appalling perjury. Indeed women falsely accuse men of Domestic Violence on a routine basis and even false Child Sex Abuse allegations are common.
- You will lose your children: The divorce court, CafCass and the CSA are all biased in favour of the woman. In the UK, men pay women an estimated 1.5 billion pounds annually in Child Support alone.
- Divorced men are the poorest sector of the population excepting the unemployed and are two and a half times more likely to commit suicide than married men.
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The consequences of divorce are catastrophic for fathers; they often end up in terrible poverty, lonely and poor for the rest of their lives, often prevented from seeing their own children.
So why are you here? If you have any inkling that your marriage is not what it should be, then the natural male inclination is to shrug, work harder, pay lip service and hope it all blows over. That makes it worse ... middle-class professional men are TARGETS.
I urge you to be realistic and prepare! What I really want to achieve is that you don’t end up broke and broken, like so many men in the UK today.
I have prepared a step-by-step guide about REAL divorce, it is based on my own personal experiences that I have researched and analysed, plus I have interviewed a great many other men and incorporated their stories into the book.
Through Create Space the book is updated on a regular basis (last update 29.11.2011) with all the new tips and experiences that come in!
In this book I describe how voices of apparent reasonableness (including perhaps your own solicitor) will lead the unwary into appalling situations. A sadly surprising number of decent hard working guys with good jobs are out there, lonely, surviving on cheap sausage rolls in cold rented 1-bed maisonettes while their ex-wife bathes in the warm joy of a happy family, a secure income, lots of free time, a younger boyfriend and guess what? You are paying for it!!
Don’t be dumb and get caught. What really breaks me up is guys whose wives have run off with someone else ... but they just stand there with a stupid grin on their face thinking they are safe "because I’ve done nothing wrong". GET REAL! You are about to be slaughtered.
The action is broken down into 10 chapters that take you step-by-step through what is happening. Each chapter is complete with thinkboxes and a "what to do now" list. This is stuff the lawyers will not tell you. Two appendices supply additional useful information for Dads.
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Good Luck ... you'll need it.
R. Schumann. .
